Gifted Adults – the Never-Finish-What-You-Started Syndrome?

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Gifted Adults Puzzle of the World

Gifted Adults, You Don’t Have to Finish What You Start!


By Sonia Dabboussi





Gifted adults have interests in so many things they often find themselves getting caught in the never-finish-what-you-started syndrome. They begin somewhere around 1000 projects, or so it seems, and never really reach the end of any of them. Then, of course, they duly proceed to beat themselves up about this, reminding themselves of how totally unsuccessful they are, AGAIN, because one more thing is left undone.


But there is good news…


You don’t have to finish what you start!!


Well, sort of.


For many people, finishing something means following it through to completion. But for the gifted person this actually has a whole different meaning. They follow things through to completion, just not the same kind of completion as everyone else.


Did I confuse you yet?


For gifted adults, learning new things is often one of their top priorities. Because learning in and of itself is so important, finishing something for a gifted person can be as simple as completing the learning to the level they wanted, even if that means leaving a task undone.


Think of a puzzle. One without a box. What is this for someone who’s gifted? A super-duper wonderful challenge just begging to be accepted! The puzzle needs to be put together, but there’s no way to tell what it’s a picture of until they start doing it.


So the gifted adult starts putting the pieces together, one by one, until the image begins to take shape. Then, in one miraculous instant they figure out the picture the puzzle makes! They’re so happy – they’ve beaten the challenge. And I’m sure somewhere they’re probably thinking something like, “Well I beat that, now didn’t I? It was so much fun to do this without any hints anywhere!”


What comes next? They walk away from the puzzle with the remaining pieces scattered on the table. And they never come back to it. Family members or friends look at the unfinished work and ask when it will be done. The gifted person doesn’t really know. When they get around to it, they say.


But of course they never get around to it because they’ve already finished what they set out to do – to figure out the picture on the puzzle. What does it look like to everyone else? Unfinished business, AGAIN.


What is it for the gifted adult? A goal reached.


So if you find yourself starting many things and leaving a lot of them undone, start paying attention to the point at which you are stopping them. That will tell you when you’ve reached the goal you actually set for yourself, even if you weren’t sure what it was when you started. If you take note of these end point for a while, you’ll likely start being able to see what the big motivations are in your life. They will be the stopping points that repeat themselves over and over again. They may be things like the excitement of learning something new, the thrill of meeting a challenge, or the adventure of beating your own previous skill level or ability.


When you can tell why you quit when you do, then you’ll more easily be able to say to those who are quick to remind you of your unfinished business, “I’ve gotten exactly what I needed out of that, thank you. For me, it’s perfectly finished!”


Sonia Dabboussi is the founder of Gifted for Life, a groundbreaking community of empowered gifted adults who maximize their unique abilities, sensitivities, experiences and insights to make a remarkable world impact.


For over a decade and a half, her diverse experience in academic and personal development through positions in education, educational administration and success coaching has led her to conduct seminars, workshops and one-on-one trainings for exceptional people in local, national and international regions.


She is a gifted adult.


To connect with gifted adults and other outstanding people at Gifted for Life, go to


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Gifted Education – Let’s Do It

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How to Motivate a Gifted Underachiever

How to Motivate a Gifted Underachiever

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How to Motivate a Gifted Underachiever


Gifted Underachievers- Perfectionism, Procrastination


Few sights frustrate parents and teachers more than the gifted child who seems unwilling to even attempt performing to his or her potential. Nothing hurts the self-esteem of a struggling student more than repeated failure without knowing why. These tips will help parents, teachers, and students better understand underachievement and turn academic performance around.




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Parents should give encouragement rather than praise. Research by Dr. Carol Dweck demonstrates that praise undermines motivation and performance.



Parents shouldn’t restrict favorite activities. A gifted student’s interests help reinstill a passion for learning. If an underachieving gifted child wants to play on the computer all day, enroll him in a computer animation or programming class.



Parents and teachers can help the student tackle perfectionism. Many gifted perfectionists become underachievers due to fear of failure. When faced with challenges, the simplest way for an underachiever to protect a fragile self-image is to avoid risk and convince herself that she failed because she didn’t even try.



Parents and teachers should clearly define project goals to avoid procrastination. Gifted underachievers often become overwhelmed by the details and can’t focus on the task at hand. Gifted kids often make the job so big they can never finish on time.



Parents can motivate an underachiever by finding a great teacher who loves a subject of interest to the gifted child. Select a teacher who values student input and treats the child like an intellectual equal. Form a mentorship. Passionate teaching motivates gifted underachievers.



Help the gifted underachiever maintain a growth mindset. Failure does not define a person and is not a fixed attribute. Parents and teachers should focus concern on the underachieving child and not the missed assignments.



Parents and teachers should find a goal that matters to the gifted underachiever. Often deciding on a career, picking a college, or making grades for a special interest camp motivates a change in an underachiever’s attitude and behavior.


Tips & Warnings


Visit “Parenting a Gifted Child” at for more information about gifted underachievement, perfectionism, procrastination, and the growth mindset.


Avoid inadvertently causing underachievement by focuses on successes and failures. Encourage effort and process.




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How Can Gifted Children Be Identified?

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10 Misconceptions About Gifted Adults

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10 Misconceptions About Gifted Adults


By Jane Macondo


Gifted adults are largely invisible. One of the reasons very few apply the term to themselves is due to the misconceptions about giftedness – in adulthood as well as childhood. Many adults who have been part of the gifted community, either as children or as parents, still do not acknowledge themselves as gifted. Adults who were identified as gifted children were often not provided information about what it means to be gifted and, as a result, think they have outgrown their ‘giftedness’. For a variety of reasons, parents of gifted children also often fail to identify their own giftedness. Of course, there are many gifted adults not affiliated with the gifted education system in anyway- adults who simply feel out of step and don’t know why but would never consider themselves gifted because of the misconceptions as to what a gifted adult is.


The misconceptions of being a gifted adult fall into two categories: superstar overachiever or incompetent misfit. The reality is more subtle than either of these stereotypes suggests. While some gifted adults struggle and some achieve extraordinary things, most gifted adults are somewhere in the middle.


10 Misconceptions about Gifted Adults


All gifted people:

Are ‘nerds’


Are socially inept


Were exceptional students


Have attained a high level of formal education


Are ‘book smart’


Physically awkward


Excel at everything uniformly; have evenly distributed abilities


Have exceptional careers


Are able to ‘get ahead’ because of their intelligence


Cannot be successful with practical things because they’re ‘too intelligent’


A gifted adult may or may not conform to a stereotypes but neither stereotype explains or defines what being a gifted adult is. If you have rejected the idea you are a gifted adult based on any of the misconceptions above, I encourage you to reconsider but this time based on information, not popular misconceptions.


Have you been told you’re a perfectionist? Intense? Expect too much?


Are you the parent of a gifted and talented child? Did you attend a gifted program as a child?


Do you know you have a high IQ but never considered your IQ relative to how you feel and perceive?


Many gifted adults are not aware they are gifted due to lack of information, stigma and misconceptions about giftedness. If you answered yes to any of the questions above, you may be a gifted adult.


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Top 10 Myths in Gifted Education

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Keeping Up With Gifted and Talented Students by Using an Alternative to Traditional Education

In this article you will learn why gifted and talented students need an alternative to traditional education. Enjoy!

Keeping Up With Gifted and Talented Students by Using an Alternative to Traditional Education


By Julie Jackson


When it comes to a proper education, especially on that is based on standards and requirements, all students are challenging to educate. Considering the fact that not all students learn and uptake information in the same way, teachers often face a serious challenge when it comes to finding methods and techniques that will promote and stimulate student learning. Of all the types of students that teachers work with on a regular basis, gifted and talented students often pose the greatest challenges.


Although it would appears that gifted and talented students would be a pleasure to educate because of their high intelligence, academic enthusiasm, and their general willingness to learn new things, most teachers often struggle to find appropriate and adequate work for them as a result of their high cognitive levels. Most teachers often become frustrated with the education of gifted and talented students, especially if they do not receive any support from school officials and administrators.


For most gifted and talented students, their eventual fate is to sit in a class that does not properly educate or stimulate them. Most of the time, these particular students are relegated to busy work, and are often forced to move at an intellectual level that is slower than they would like to proceed. As a result, many gifted and talented students often find traditional public and private schools to be difficult places to learn, in particular because of the ill-prepared teachers who are charged with educating them.


Distance learning college prep is perhaps one of the best options for the education of gifted and talented students. Distance learning programs that specifically target or focus on gifted and talented students have more opportunities to work individually with these challenging students. For one thing, distance learning college prep programs for gifted students can focus all of their efforts on the needs of these students – especially in terms of pace and material taught. By allowing students to move at the pace they are comfortable with, these programs are better able to cover specific topics and concepts.


In addition to allowing gifted and talented students to work at their own pace, distance learning programs can also be individually tailored to the needs and requirements of each individual student. By being able to focus specifically on the academic needs of gifted and talented students, these distance learning programs can prove extremely effective in the area of college preparation.


Courses in a distance learning program that are targeted at gifted and talented students looking to attend college are by no means less demanding than courses at traditional schools. The curriculum is often fully accredited and designed to meet the admissions requirements of American colleges and universities. With a variety of resources available, distance learning college prep programs for gifted and talented students have the ability to cater specifically to these students by developing a course of study that will be designed around a student’s individual needs, abilities, and learning styles.


To learn more about a quality, distance learning academy for gifted students please visit Laurel Springs Academy for the Gifted and Talented. At Laurel Springs Academy for the Gifted and Talented they know that gifted students have unique and diverse academic needs. They offer exceptional students an alternative to traditional schools and an opportunity to become part of a thriving online community that partakes in a differentiated, intellectually demanding curriculum through distance learning.


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